It’s a historic day here, in CT! We have our very first use of “please” by the Riverbug.
Normally, whenever I ask or encourage her to say “please,” she gets this look on her face that says, “This is meaningless. I’ve already told you what I want. Why add an extra word? And what does “Please” mean, anyway? If it’s not something edible or something I can play with, why would I say it?”
It’s a hilarious look.
Normally, I just say “please” for her, to remind her that it’s part of civil human interaction. Since most of what she asks for is food, I don’t delay giving her food to enforce her saying “please.” (I REALLY just want her to enjoy eating and to eat as much as possible since she’s such a small mite).
But today was different. I’d handed her a red-white-and-blue pinwheel, and she was asking to hold the second one that was standing on the kitchen counter.
“Do you want the pinwheel, River?”
::pause:: I could see the “this is pointless” look play across her face, and she subtly shook her head, pointed to the pinwheel and whined.
::point and yell::
“That’s OK. You don’t have to have the pinwheel if you don’t want to say ‘Please.'”
I turned and starting loading dishes in the dishwasher.
She looked a little puzzled, then pointed again.
“Do you want the pinwheel?”
“If you want the pinwheel, say ‘please.'”
“Pweese? Pweese?” (rhymes with “geese”).
And of course, she got the second pinwheel. :)
I’m not fooling myself into thinking that she’ll magically use “please” for everything now, but it’s nice to know that she’s physically capable of saying it. :)